Thursday, March 25, 2010
Dear Abby--I found this one very disturbing and decided to post it
MOTHER STRUGGLES TO LOVE THE DAUGHTER SHE DISLIKES
DEAR ABBY: I can't stand my 10-year-old daughter. I was an 18-year-old single mother when she was born. I find her ugly and annoying. Everyone tells me how "sweet" and "pretty" she is, but I can't see it. I dread when she comes home from school. I am not physically abusive to her -- I would never do that. But I can be verbally abusive, and I know I need to stop. She just makes me so mad.
I am now married with two more kids (boys), and I adore them. What's wrong with me? How can I fix this? I'm afraid it's too late. I have no spiritual adviser to talk to, and I can't afford to speak to a professional counselor. -- ANONYMOUS IN WASHINGTON STATE
DEAR ANONYMOUS: The circumstances of your daughter's birth were very different from those of your sons. When you look at her, you may be reminded of a chapter in your life you would prefer to forget. How sad for both of you.
The way you treat her, particularly in relation to her half-brothers -- will affect the way she perceives herself for the rest of her life. People whose parents treat them as unlovable often regard themselves as not "measuring up," and it can cause self-esteem problems that last a lifetime.
Ordinarily, I would encourage you to seek low-cost therapy through your county department of mental health for the sake of both you and your daughter. If that isn't possible, then I advise you to hold your tongue, control your temper and compel yourself to show your daughter approval and affection every day until it becomes a habit or she's old enough to leave -- whichever comes first.
DEAR ABBY: I can't stand my 10-year-old daughter. I was an 18-year-old single mother when she was born. I find her ugly and annoying. Everyone tells me how "sweet" and "pretty" she is, but I can't see it. I dread when she comes home from school. I am not physically abusive to her -- I would never do that. But I can be verbally abusive, and I know I need to stop. She just makes me so mad.
I am now married with two more kids (boys), and I adore them. What's wrong with me? How can I fix this? I'm afraid it's too late. I have no spiritual adviser to talk to, and I can't afford to speak to a professional counselor. -- ANONYMOUS IN WASHINGTON STATE
DEAR ANONYMOUS: The circumstances of your daughter's birth were very different from those of your sons. When you look at her, you may be reminded of a chapter in your life you would prefer to forget. How sad for both of you.
The way you treat her, particularly in relation to her half-brothers -- will affect the way she perceives herself for the rest of her life. People whose parents treat them as unlovable often regard themselves as not "measuring up," and it can cause self-esteem problems that last a lifetime.
Ordinarily, I would encourage you to seek low-cost therapy through your county department of mental health for the sake of both you and your daughter. If that isn't possible, then I advise you to hold your tongue, control your temper and compel yourself to show your daughter approval and affection every day until it becomes a habit or she's old enough to leave -- whichever comes first.
MAN CONVICTED OF SWORD THREAT-he molested his girlfriend's child & then threatened her with a sword
March 25, 2010 10:01 PM |
A DuPage County jury has convicted a Bloomingdale man of molesting his girlfriend's child and then threatening the woman with a samurai sword to stop her from going to police.
The jury deliberated about five hours Thursday before convicting 50-year-old taxi driver Ray Matazzoni on charges of armed violence, aggravated criminal sexual abuse and domestic battery.
The jurors, however, acquitted Matazzoni on several other counts, including aggravated unlawful restraint.
Prosecutors said Matazzoni inappropriately touched the 8-year-old girl while alone with her, beginning in 2008, and threatened the mother after the child reported the abuse.
Defense attorneys George Ford and Jacqueline Lacy contended prosecutors lacked compelling evidence, such as a confession or physical evidence, to prove their case.
Matazzoni has been held in the DuPage County Jail on $150,000 bond since arrest in May.---http://www.chicagobreakingnews.com/
A DuPage County jury has convicted a Bloomingdale man of molesting his girlfriend's child and then threatening the woman with a samurai sword to stop her from going to police.
The jury deliberated about five hours Thursday before convicting 50-year-old taxi driver Ray Matazzoni on charges of armed violence, aggravated criminal sexual abuse and domestic battery.
The jurors, however, acquitted Matazzoni on several other counts, including aggravated unlawful restraint.
Prosecutors said Matazzoni inappropriately touched the 8-year-old girl while alone with her, beginning in 2008, and threatened the mother after the child reported the abuse.
Defense attorneys George Ford and Jacqueline Lacy contended prosecutors lacked compelling evidence, such as a confession or physical evidence, to prove their case.
Matazzoni has been held in the DuPage County Jail on $150,000 bond since arrest in May.---http://www.chicagobreakingnews.com/
KC & The Sunshine Band member arrested for sexual misconduct with a minor
(CNN) -- A member of the 1970s pop music group KC & the Sunshine Band has been arrested after a 17-year-old boy said he had sexual contact with the musician, authorities said.
The teenager said he had sexual contact with Richard Finch at Finch's house in Newark, Ohio, the Licking County Sheriff's Office said in a statement.
During an interview with detectives, Finch "disclosed that he did in fact have sexual contact with the juvenile, along with multiple other male teenage juveniles as well ranging from ages 13 to 17," the office said in a statement Wednesday.
Investigators said they arrested Finch this week. The sheriff's office statement lists the offense as gross sexual imposition, a felony.
A statement on Finch's Web site reads:
"We appreciate your contact, but at this time, we have no comment. We will let due process happen through the legal system and through that, we are sure Mr. Finch will be vindicated from these unfounded allegations."
The sheriff's office said detectives continue to interview people and that a grand jury will consider additional charges later.--http://www.cnn.com/
The teenager said he had sexual contact with Richard Finch at Finch's house in Newark, Ohio, the Licking County Sheriff's Office said in a statement.
During an interview with detectives, Finch "disclosed that he did in fact have sexual contact with the juvenile, along with multiple other male teenage juveniles as well ranging from ages 13 to 17," the office said in a statement Wednesday.
Investigators said they arrested Finch this week. The sheriff's office statement lists the offense as gross sexual imposition, a felony.
A statement on Finch's Web site reads:
"We appreciate your contact, but at this time, we have no comment. We will let due process happen through the legal system and through that, we are sure Mr. Finch will be vindicated from these unfounded allegations."
The sheriff's office said detectives continue to interview people and that a grand jury will consider additional charges later.--http://www.cnn.com/
A 17 YEAR OLD GIRL THROWS ACID ON 3 WOMEN STANDING IN FRONT YARD..
March 25, 2010 (FORD HEIGHTS, Ill.) (WLS) -- A chemical attack in the south suburbs has left four people hospitalized.
Investigators are still trying to figure out what led to the attack Wednesday night in the 1300-block of Kennedy Street in Ford Heights. Police say three women, ages 18, 25 and 41, were standing in a front yard when a 17-year-old girl threw a liquid chemical on them.
Witnesses told police the suspect knew the victims and returned to the location after an earlier argument.
All four people involved are hospitalized with burns. 9ABC-WLS)
Investigators are still trying to figure out what led to the attack Wednesday night in the 1300-block of Kennedy Street in Ford Heights. Police say three women, ages 18, 25 and 41, were standing in a front yard when a 17-year-old girl threw a liquid chemical on them.
Witnesses told police the suspect knew the victims and returned to the location after an earlier argument.
All four people involved are hospitalized with burns. 9ABC-WLS)
17 YEAR OLD DALLAS TEEN SHOT REPEATEDLY
A Dallas teenager is on life support after he was shot in the parking lot of his North Dallas apartment complex, police said.
Shooting at apartments Police found Alejandro Gonzalez, 17, lying on the ground at the Plaza on Harvest Hill in the 5500 block of Harvest Hill Road, near LBJ Freeway and Inwood Road. He had been shot repeatedly, including in the head.
Gonzalez was taken to Parkland Memorial Hospital, where he was placed on life support, police said.
Witnesses said they saw two men fleeing the scene on foot. Police didn’t release detailed descriptions of the men.
The motive in the shooting remains unclear, although it did not appear to be a robbery, Dallas police Sgt. Warren Mitchell said. He said police are investigating whether it was gang-related.
Anyone with information can call Dallas police at 214-671-3661. ---http://www.dallasnews.com/
Shooting at apartments Police found Alejandro Gonzalez, 17, lying on the ground at the Plaza on Harvest Hill in the 5500 block of Harvest Hill Road, near LBJ Freeway and Inwood Road. He had been shot repeatedly, including in the head.
Gonzalez was taken to Parkland Memorial Hospital, where he was placed on life support, police said.
Witnesses said they saw two men fleeing the scene on foot. Police didn’t release detailed descriptions of the men.
The motive in the shooting remains unclear, although it did not appear to be a robbery, Dallas police Sgt. Warren Mitchell said. He said police are investigating whether it was gang-related.
Anyone with information can call Dallas police at 214-671-3661. ---http://www.dallasnews.com/
CYBERBULLIES MAY HAVE CAUSED A TEENAGED GIRL'S SUICIDE
Cops are investigating whether cyberbullies contributed to the suicide of a Long Island teen with nasty messages posted online after her death.
Alexis Pilkington, 17, a West Islip soccer star, took her own life Sunday following vicious taunts on social networking sites - which persisted postmortem on Internet tribute pages, worsening the grief of her family and friends.
"Investigators are monitoring the postings and will take action if any communication is determined to be of a criminal nature," Suffolk County Deputy Chief of Detectives Frank Stallone said yesterday.
Alexis' parents downplayed the Internet role, saying their daughter was in counseling before she ever signed up with formspring.me, a new social site, where many of the attacks appeared.
"I believe in my heart that cyberbullying wasn't the cause of Lexi's death," said her mother, Paula Pilkington. "This is a mistake."
Alexis' father, Tom Pilkington, who serves in the NYPD, has said they will cooperate with the police probe.
Despite the negativity online, Paula Pilkington said the family is getting plenty of support in the real world.
"The outpouring of children coming to my house is amazing," she said. "There has to be some positive coming out of this."
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/
Alexis Pilkington, 17, a West Islip soccer star, took her own life Sunday following vicious taunts on social networking sites - which persisted postmortem on Internet tribute pages, worsening the grief of her family and friends.
"Investigators are monitoring the postings and will take action if any communication is determined to be of a criminal nature," Suffolk County Deputy Chief of Detectives Frank Stallone said yesterday.
Alexis' parents downplayed the Internet role, saying their daughter was in counseling before she ever signed up with formspring.me, a new social site, where many of the attacks appeared.
"I believe in my heart that cyberbullying wasn't the cause of Lexi's death," said her mother, Paula Pilkington. "This is a mistake."
Alexis' father, Tom Pilkington, who serves in the NYPD, has said they will cooperate with the police probe.
Despite the negativity online, Paula Pilkington said the family is getting plenty of support in the real world.
"The outpouring of children coming to my house is amazing," she said. "There has to be some positive coming out of this."
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/
Woman Attacks Man With Large Knife--claims she was a victim of a violent assault
Cambridge —
A woman who attacked a man with a large knife was arrested March 16, according to a police report.
Police responded to an Elm Street resident for reports of an assault at 7:41 p.m. They met a woman who reportedly said she was the “victim of a violent assault.”
She was identified as Jennifer Bastin, 25, of 242 Elm St. and said she had problems with a man whom she was not on speaking terms with for the past two weeks. She said they got into an argument and he attacked her. Police noted “obvious red marks” on both of her arms where she said he grabbed her.
In the apartment, police also met with a man who told them that it was she who attacked him and held a knife to his throat during a fight. When she got enraged he said he would not fight with her because “she is a girl and in my country they don't hit girls.” But that made her angrier and she allegedly grabbed the largest knife in the kitchen and came at him with it. To avoid injury, he admitted to pushing her back against a wall, grabbing the knife and throwing it into the sink.
After comparing both versions and checking out the scene, police concluded that Bastin was the one who attacked the man. She was arrested and charged with assault and battery and assault and battery with a dangerous weapon, according to the report.---http://www.cambridgechronicle.com/
A woman who attacked a man with a large knife was arrested March 16, according to a police report.
Police responded to an Elm Street resident for reports of an assault at 7:41 p.m. They met a woman who reportedly said she was the “victim of a violent assault.”
She was identified as Jennifer Bastin, 25, of 242 Elm St. and said she had problems with a man whom she was not on speaking terms with for the past two weeks. She said they got into an argument and he attacked her. Police noted “obvious red marks” on both of her arms where she said he grabbed her.
In the apartment, police also met with a man who told them that it was she who attacked him and held a knife to his throat during a fight. When she got enraged he said he would not fight with her because “she is a girl and in my country they don't hit girls.” But that made her angrier and she allegedly grabbed the largest knife in the kitchen and came at him with it. To avoid injury, he admitted to pushing her back against a wall, grabbing the knife and throwing it into the sink.
After comparing both versions and checking out the scene, police concluded that Bastin was the one who attacked the man. She was arrested and charged with assault and battery and assault and battery with a dangerous weapon, according to the report.---http://www.cambridgechronicle.com/
Man Hits Dad In Head with lamp-Charged with aggravated battery
A North Side man was charged with aggravated domestic battery for allegedly striking his father in the forehead with a lamp Wednesday night in Lake View, police said.
Ryan McCloskey, 28, of the 600 block of West Irving Park Road, was charged with felony aggravated domestic battery, according to Belmont District police.
McCoskey was arrested about midnight Wednesday at 3601 N. Halsted St. and police said he is scheduled to appear in bond court later Thursday.
An online directory lists a Harris Bank branch at the North Halsted Street address, which is across the street from the Town Hall district police department.
Responding officers went to the residence at the West Irving Park Road address and were met at the door by the 60-year-old victim who had a large “gushing” wound to the forehead, a police report said.
The victim said his son hit him with a lamp and fled the scene. Officers saw fresh blood stains all over the floor, walls, countertops and in the bathroom’s commode and sink, the report said.
The injured man was treated on the scene by fire department personnel and then transferred to Thorek Memorial Hospital where his injuries were considered non life-threatening, according to police.
A flash message with the suspect’s description was given over police radio and a Town Hall District police officer apprehended McCloskey, who allegedly had blood stains in his shirt, at the Halsted Street address.
Belmont Area detectives are investigating. ---http://www.suntimes.com/
Ryan McCloskey, 28, of the 600 block of West Irving Park Road, was charged with felony aggravated domestic battery, according to Belmont District police.
McCoskey was arrested about midnight Wednesday at 3601 N. Halsted St. and police said he is scheduled to appear in bond court later Thursday.
An online directory lists a Harris Bank branch at the North Halsted Street address, which is across the street from the Town Hall district police department.
Responding officers went to the residence at the West Irving Park Road address and were met at the door by the 60-year-old victim who had a large “gushing” wound to the forehead, a police report said.
The victim said his son hit him with a lamp and fled the scene. Officers saw fresh blood stains all over the floor, walls, countertops and in the bathroom’s commode and sink, the report said.
The injured man was treated on the scene by fire department personnel and then transferred to Thorek Memorial Hospital where his injuries were considered non life-threatening, according to police.
A flash message with the suspect’s description was given over police radio and a Town Hall District police officer apprehended McCloskey, who allegedly had blood stains in his shirt, at the Halsted Street address.
Belmont Area detectives are investigating. ---http://www.suntimes.com/
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